As a millennial, living with your parents is almost a sure thing. With the rising cost of living, over a third of 18-30somethings are still living in their childhood bedrooms. There’s also people like me who have made it out and ventured the world, only to find out that that adventurous world is an exchange for travel and other leisures. Those people, aka me, find their way back home to save money & enjoy a little more of a less-frugal life.
However moving back in also means a new set of rules. They may not be the same your teenage house rules, but there are some things to respect when moving under your parents’ roof. Here are some ways to make the move (literally) a bit smoother:
Text them where you’re at. Don’t ask for permission exactly, but let them know you’re alive. Sure, you’re in your late 20s, but at the end of the day they’re still your parents & will wonder why you aren’t home yet.
Create days apart
If you stick together 24/7, you’ll forget the life you gained while you were out conquering on your own.
But Still Make Time For Them
1 month or 1 year. Whatever amount of time you spent away, they are going to want to regain all “lost” time. Spend a day every month to reconnect, with just them.
Create a Contract
Not literally (or literally if it works for your family!), but definitely lay out the concrete rules you may want from the start. Like going out, who can sleep over (No boys in my household), etc.
Help Out Around the House
Whether you pay rent or not. If you’re parents are anything like mine, they will baby you the moment you walk into the door. It’s easy to get sucked into the convenience of being “catered” but if you stop acting like an adult, you won’t be treated like one. Clean, cook, help like any normal roommate to keep the line clear of your age, responsibilities & freedoms.
There will be some rules you just can’t get used to. But iIt’s still their own home & they may be your parents but they don’t owe you favors
Some days will be harder than others, but if you are honest about each decision and are willing to compromise, you’ll see that moving back in can be easier that you think.
Originally posted 2018-04-02 12:19:49.